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Sept. 25, 2004 One of my first articles I wrote for this site was about my thoughts on the lack of the sanctity of marriage of my generation. I said that my generation didn't take it seriously. And in the article, I mentioned that my parents were together for 24 years and they were showing no signs of splitting up. I was wrong. Most children are devestated when their parents get divorced. They are typically young and impressionable, and they become upset when the news is dropped on them. Their school grades are affected, their attitudes are affected. Young children are very affected by divorce. This morning, I found out grown adults are also very affected by divorce. They get angry, upset, the whole nine. So after my whole deal about how good old mom and dad are staying together through thick and thin, two kids, two grandkids, and three prison terms, I was wrong. D-I-V-O-R-C-E. All done, no more talking, no more trying. Just no more. Scares the hell out of me that even after 24 years, marriages can still crumble so quickly. In every relationship I have ever been in, I wanted it to be just like my mom and dad's marriage. I wanted that kind of strength and love and all that. I wanted a guy like dad. Hardworking, funny, etc. And I wanted to be like my mom. Great cook, excellent housekeeper. Why was I dumb enough to compare my relationships to the June and Ward Cleaver ideation I put my parents in. It was probably wrong of me to put them there in the first place. So here I am, a 24 year old mother of two, preparing for a marriage of my own, sulking about my mom and dad's decision to end their marriage. I really thought that they could do it. I really thought that I had the parents that weren't going to stop at anything. I mean, for Christ's sake, they've been through everything. Maybe it just got to hard. Maybe after all the prison and the fighting and the sickness, it just got to be too much, and even though the prison sentence is almost over, and it's almost at an end. I guess everyone just got really tired. But I'm mad, and I don't know why. It's not my life or really my business. It's just happening. I can't stop it, I can't control it. It's just another thing in my life to add to my insomnia. ------------ About the author L.J. Chapman: I am 24 years old and I live in Massachusetts with my two children. I am going to be getting married to my fiance' Josh, in October of 2005. I have written several poems for poetry.com and I am in the middle of writing my first novel "The Checkered Blanket" which is a work of fiction. Email: bipolar_bear80@hotmail.com Tell a friend about this site! ------------ |
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