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Sept. 11, 2004 I am observant. I have been looking at the way guys and girls work together, and I have come to the conclusion that neither sex will EVER figure the other out. On that note, I would like to give a few pointers to each sex, maybe helping out some other relationship. 1. If you are not interested in someone anymore, tell them. Don't give them the cold shoulder. Return their phone calls, emails, smoke signals, whatever, and tell them what's up. Stand up and say what you mean, it will make both parties feel better. 2. Men and women alike need to mean what they say and say what they mean. This is a piece of knowledge, that my cousin gave me. Thank you, Sunday. 3. Nobody likes games, unless they are board games and it's game night. If you wanna play games, go back to the playground. 4. Sometimes, no matter how much you like someone it's just not going to work out. Sometimes the fates or the stars or the gods, or whatever, are lined up against you and it's just not going to happen. Don't stay in a relationship just to spite or what have you. Just let it go, let it be, and everyone will be happier. 5. You know, it doesn't hurt to lay your cards out on the table. If you do that, then the chances of someone getting screwed in the end seriously decreases. If you just want to be friends, say it. If you want to be friends with the benefit of having sex, say it. If you want to be together, get married, have babies, and grow old together, say it. If you say what needs to be said, again, there will be no hard feelings. 6. If you're in a relationship, don't forget the little things. The little things really matter. It's the special no occasion cards, the flowers for no reasons, the simple "I love yous" that really make the relationship. Anniversaries, while important, come once a year. Make the other 364 days count. 7. When it comes to women, and this one is for the men, we are not as fragile as you think we are. If you need to tell us good-bye, we may get upset, but the majority of us will not lay down and die if you leave. 8. Women: don't use sex or tears as a way to get what you want. It's not fair and it makes the rest of us look kinda bad. 9. If you are going to get into a relationship with someone with children, you better be prepared to have contact with those children. No one said you have to become the new parent, unless, of course, marriage is imminent. A man or a woman with a child/children is going to spend time with his/her offspring. Don't get jealous. Don't get whiney. If you don't think you can handle these things, DO NOT get into a relationship with a single parent. You will only wind up hurting that person in the end and you will wind up looking like a big jerk. 10. This is the big one. The hard one. The one that everyone has a problem with. Be honest. Be open. If you can't tell the truth and be open to someone that you are in a relationship with, then how is that relationship going to work? Honesty. Being Open. It sounds corny and Oprah like, but it's the ONLY way to go if you want it work. So there it is, the way to make guys and girls a little bit better. To work a little bit longer. Give it a try see what happens. ------------ About the author L.J. Chapman: I am 24 years old and I live in Massachusetts with my two children. I am going to be getting married to my fiance' Josh, in October of 2005. I have written several poems for poetry.com and I am in the middle of writing my first novel "The Checkered Blanket" which is a work of fiction. Email: bipolar_bear80@hotmail.com Tell a friend about this site! ------------ |
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