HOME | POLITICS | SPORTS | LIFE | SCI/TECH | OPEDS | HELPFUL TIPS
|
Aug 20, 2004 I got married on May 26, 2001 when I was twenty-one years old. I was legally separated from my husband on December 8, 2001. My cousin got married at eightteen and seperated from her husband at 20. My roommate was married at 22 and seperated at 25. Between the three marriages, the shortest, mine, was 5 1/2 months, and my roommate got his to a whopping 3 1/2 years. What's the problem here? Why are the marriages of my peers ending just as fast as they began? Is it because we all got married too young? Is it because we got married so quickly, without actually getting to know our spouses? Is it because one half of the couples didn't understand the meaning of monogamy? I don't know what the answer is, but I do know that I am becoming ashamed of the way my generation is treating the sanctity that is marriage. My parents have been married for twenty-five years, and it seems like they're in no rush to be getting a divorce. But what is it that is making our marriages fail so miserably? Let's look at some examples. My marriage ended rather abruptly when my husband decided that he couldn't be with just one woman. That even though their were vows taken, they didn't mean to him what they meant to me. My cousin's marriage ended because her husband enjoyed the thought of her sleeping with many men. My cousin didn't necessarily like this, but she tried it a few times to try to save her marriage, but found it too demeaning and left with their son. My roommate's marriage ended because his wife thought that sending nude pictures of herself to men over the internet and writing love letters to men in jail wasn't technically cheating. He thought it was, and after asking her multiple times to stop, and then finding out that she was sleeping with an ex-boyfriend, decided that it was time to move on. Why is it marriage happening the way it is? Are we not mature enough to be doing what we're doing? Are we just a bunch of little kids playing house with a real marriage certificate? I don't know exactly what the reason is, but I hope it changes. I hope the divorce rate goes down from 80% to 10% again. This is not the way it was intended, and my generation needs to learn that. ------------ About the author L.J. Chapman: I am in the middle of writing a book call "Checkered Blanket" which I am hoping to finish by the end of the month. I have also written a few poems for poetry.com. Email: bipolar_bear80@hotmail.com Tell a friend about this site! ------------ |
||||||
|
|
|||||||
|
