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Sept. 27, 2005 Sometime in the past, I wrote an article called "Sisters of the Soul." Well not I have become a surrogate mother to a sixteen-year-old girl that used to be one of my oldest child’s (and only daughter) friend. Jennifer is a beautiful, talented, caring, and sensitive soul that calls me at least every other night if not every night. She asks me, right off the bat, how my back is doing. And if it’s a Monday, Wednesday, or Friday, she will ask me how my physical therapy went that day. Jennifer will also call me just to talk. It’s odd, she’s just one year older than my own daughter, but we have the same tastes in old movies. We cry at "An Affair to Remember," and we laugh at "A Night At The Roxbury." Plus we also like the same style of music. Cats are our passion. Stewart is my baby and Jennifer has Dina. All of our conversations include the subjects of one-year-old Dina and two-year-old Stewart and what they have been up to lately. The messes they create and the fact that I had to find another place to put my socks because Stewart has commandeered my sock drawer as a bed. It has no drawer front because my youngest was standing on the drawer to reach something he shouldn’t have been trying to get into in the first place. We both held our breaths and cried together as both Hurricanes Katrina and Rita tore through the Gulf because she knows I have family all throughout the Gulf Coast region. Both of us wished that we had money and space to adopt cats from that region, but alas neither one of us can. My youngest loves to talk to her and his big sister on the phone. Ok, my youngest loves to talk to anyone on the phone, even when I am discussing business. But he can quite get out Jennifer and the one time he tried it, it sounded like "Jennifah," so he calls her Jenny. Not to be confused with Aunt Ginni that he loves to death. We have become her "Long distance family" Dan has become "Daddy," my sons are her brothers and I of course am "Mom." She calls her biological mother "Momma," so there is no confusion there. Her mother doesn’t seem to mind the relationship that Jennifer and I have. In fact, it appears that she somewhat encourages it. I guess that she doesn’t feel threatened by me and the fact that Jennifer and I are so close. For that I am thankful to the Higher Powers. Both of the girls and I have different relationships, and I treasure each one. I get great pleasure from the differences in the relationships I have with the girls and I feel that I am a better person for having both in my life and both of them coming to me and calling me "Mom." But if I had just one wish, it would be to have all 4 of the children under one roof for one holiday. Me cooking a full scale holiday meal with turkey and all the trimmings. But most of all, to have each child to accept each other for my sake, for one day act all of us like a family would make me happier than the day that I got word that my ovarian cancer was in remission. That is my ultimate dream, to have all four children around the table and to have a holiday meal and for them to at least pretend to get along. It’s probably a pipe dream and I’ll probably end up with sweet potatoes in my hair as they have a huge food fight. ------------ About the author: Kaycee Nilson has completed her first novel, "Night Falls on Chicago." The first two chapters can be viewed at http://www.KayceeNilson.com. Besides writing columns for Useless-Knowledge, Kaycee is currently working on two more novels, "From the Mind of a Vampire", and "I'll Love You Til You Die." If you have enjoyed what you read, or would like to leave Kaycee a message, please visit her message board at http://www.KayceeNilson.com/Board Email: Kaycee@kayceenilson.com Tell a friend about this site! ------------ All articles are EXCLUSIVE to Useless-Knowledge.com. Please link to this article rather than copying and pasting it onto your site (which would be unauthorized and illegal). |
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