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Nov. 11, 2004 One of the saddest stories I ever heard was from a girl who dated a rising baseball star. A few months into the relationship, he signed on to a major league team, and she discovered she was pregnant. Before leaving for spring training, he handed her $500 “to take care of things.” She got an abortion. Only afterwards did she realize abortion was the furthest thing from his mind. The girl had two part time jobs and no health insurance, and the money was for a doctor’s visit and vitamins. Was this a case of bad communication? You bet. Obviously, they didn’t know each other very well since she had no idea he was against abortion, and he took for granted it never crossed her mind. Sadly, their relationship ended. I think this happens more than people realize. We make it a point to teach our daughters our values about sex and birth control, simply because when she becomes pregnant, she’s stuck holding the bag. Whatever choice she makes, even if she involves her partner, something is going to happen to her body whether she likes it or not. This automatically gives her the right to choose. Unfortunately for her partner, it gives her veto rights as well. Where does this leave our sons? Kind of in the “Tough Luck, Buddy” category, doesn’t it? In spite of trying to teach our sons how special lovemaking is, we must realize that they don’t always sleep with their soul mates before settling down with Mrs. Right. With this in mind, we must arm them with the knowledge that, by law, women have the right to choose. Even married women have this right. It’s not fair from a man’s perspective, but no female politician will ever entertain overturning this law, and no male politician, no matter what his beliefs, will ever touch it. It’s here to stay, and they have to get over it. We must teach our sons to choose their sex partners carefully, especially if they are pro- life. Conversations need to run a lot deeper than their favorite pizza toppings before hopping into bed together, and they should never assume a woman’s values mirrors his own in the heat of the moment. He should ask her feelings on abortion and birth control. If she’s pro-choice, he needs to find out under what circumstances. He should ask if his input would even be considered. If she says no, he should run in the other direction. We also need to raise our sons to be upstanding, decent men. Part of the reason no one cares about their rights is because of rapists, pedophiles, and the broad range of cads who impregnate women every day. The other part is because the man doesn’t suffer physically, only emotionally, and they’re not nearly as open about it. Lastly, we must continue teaching our sons the basics: 1) it only takes fifteen minutes to acquire eighteen years in child support payments; 2) never sleep with a woman he wouldn’t want to be the mother of his child; and 3) if they ignore numbers 1 and 2, never leave home without a condom! ------------ About the author: Karyn Hughes has a fiction book published by Authorhouse entitled, Scattered Dreams, which is about a newly single mother who battles ADHD. Hughes is also looking for an agent since she has six other finished novels and one more in the works. All Hughes’ novels are related and could be part of a series. Email: Karynlilly1@comcast.net Tell a friend about this site! ------------ All articles are EXCLUSIVE to Useless-Knowledge.com and are not allowed to be posted on other websites. ARTICLE THIEVES WILL BE PROSECUTED! |
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