Do Good Break Ups Exist?

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Do Good Break Ups Exist?

By Judy Ramsook
May 30, 2005

They say it’s difficult to break up with someone and as you take a look around you, you observe how unhappy most people are when such a break up occurs, so say a friend or relative comes to you looking slightly depressed and seems to have lost a reason to get up in the morning saying that he/she has had a bad break up with his/her mate.

And after lending an ear and uttering words of comfort to this friend or relative, you think to yourself, is there such a thing as a good break up?

People end relationships because there is a problem, and since there is a problem, then it usually means something has gone terribly wrong somewhere during the course of their relationship. Be it infidelity, the incompatibility factor, or maybe you had a shouting match during which that other person in the relationship hurled unforgettable, hurtful insults and accusations at you. Maybe it’s just naivete, but from much observation, I have yet to hear someone say that he/she has had a good break up.

For any way you look at it, someone has been dumped, and unless you were hoping the break up would occur since you were not happy in the relationship anyway, there is some form of loss you must be feeling.

Not to mention that when next you see or talk to this individual, things would not be as they were before the break up. You know, like maybe there will be a little tension in the atmosphere, or words that once came easily to you are now hard to locate.

For people don’t usually end relationships if they are happy with that particular person and vice versa, and while you may still want to be friends with that individual with whom you had the bad break up, somewhere deep in your subconscious, dwells the reason you broke up in the first place.

Maybe the only form of a good break up is one in which you were happy with that person and lost him/her to the one thing that is capable of removing him/her from you forever; death.

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About the author Judy Ramsook: My first book titled: "Karen's Adventure" which is about two young girls who go in search of their missing parents, is now available.

I was born and raised in Trinidad & Tobago, then in the mid eighties I came to the US where I attended San Antonio College and The University Of Texas At San Antonio.

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