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June 13, 2005 For what it is worth, I was a counselor for over twenty years, licensed in Minnesota, and worked in many clinics and hospitals; was even director of one clinic, and although this does not make me an expert on the emotions of women, I doubt any man could claim that, much less a woman, I have witnessed an assortment of reasons why they have them during my 20-years. Some times the women are too close to the forest to see the trees, and sometimes the men are in the forest and cannot get out to see the trees, blinded by the foliage in the depths of the issue. Anyhow, I have not done an article for many years on behavioral issues, so I will try my best, for some odd reason I got a fancy to do one yesterday, and am typing it out today [or started to, I may leave it sit for a few days]. I’ve retired four years ago. Having said that lets dive in. I was writing this for women, but the more I think about it, looking at my notes, it may suite men more, or it maybe be more beneficial for them. I think in general, everybody complains to God about what is right and wrong and the big “Why me?” question (or syndrome). We all, men and women, must remember we have different systems at work beneath our plastic skin, flesh, as it is called. Menopause for women is called, “a change of life,” for men, it is a psychological twist in the brain, and thus, automatic reactions take place. It all boils down to some kind of hormonal change; I guess; both seemingly natural at best, and worse. I mean, be it whatever it is, it comes out emotional and sideways at times. I beat the table; women beat their mouths. You do what you do best I guess. I got sore knuckles, and I suppose women get sore lungs. Anyhow, when we look at the beast for what it is, men and women, especially in counseling, what I took into consideration, is that we all are different, and yet, we have similarities. Hormonal structures exists, and are different for: men, women, young, old, etc; as does sexual needs, psychological and emotional needs. Difference on an individual level is alive as is gender level and perhaps on a customs level also. Save for the fact I have not included religion, but we could, if we wanted to, add that to the religion, or tuck it in some place. Women are born with a caretaking clause or capabilities, they should be thought to nurture, not care take [although men thieve on it] for it is part of their nature to do so. And so when I counseled them in prison, most were caretaking their damn boyfriends at one time, who preyed on this natural tendency, which got them in trouble. Women have an intuition that seems to be able to flirt out a mans weaknesses, and use it against him, and once she knows it, it becomes her secret weapon, this is wrong also. Why it is wrong, because if you use his weakness, a trust issue develops, as does a control issue. I started writing this out a week ago, wrote four pages during an afternoon. But now that I’m typing it onto my computer [for the second time], I get the feeling I’m talking in vain, and thus I will cut two thirds of this crap out, make it short, and leave the rest for the ants. But what I should say perhaps is, pushing all the gonads issues aside, and the ovaries in the corner, and the hormones, and the volatile adolescent period, and all that stuff, women have variations of estrogen and progesterone levels during menstrual cycles, this affects their energy level, highs and lows come about, men should acknowledge this and family relations [relationships] could be must better, I assure you. And women need not be ashamed of their outburst, or one day being ambitious, and sexual, and the next dim and depressed. It is the nature of the beast. Just keep your man full of pride, and respect, and he’ll die on the cross for you. Take that away, and he’ll nail you to it. And men, women need appreciation, if you don’t give it, they’ll find it else where. ------------ About the author: Mr. Siluk is a world traveler, a lover of the mysteries around the world, and has visit many World Heritage Sites, his most recent being Easter Island, the Galapagos and Mesa Verde. His books can be seen on/at Barns and Noble.com, Amazon.com, Wal-Mart, Abe.com Alibis, Boarders and several other sites and book stores. Many of his books can be purchased through the English Bookdealers. He spends his time between Lima, Peru and St. Paul, Minnesota, and has just finished working on two new books: "The Macabre Poems,” and “Perhaps it’s Love,” and continues to work on "Curse of the Abyss Worm,” a suspenseful mystery, and “Cold Kindness,” a tragic love affair. Visit http://dennissiluk.tripod.com Email: dlsiluk@msn.com Tell a friend about this site! ------------ All articles are EXCLUSIVE to Useless-Knowledge.com and are not allowed to be posted on other websites. ARTICLE THIEVES WILL BE PROSECUTED! |
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