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July 2, 2005 Mr. Jack Lepiarz article "Is Sexiness Passé?" made numerous valid points. Yet, if you explore the biology of sexiness and beauty (how the human mind is wired), the history of cosmetics throughout ancient and recent history (African tribes, Ancient Egypt, the English, Russian, French societies during the Victorian era), the American trends from the 1900’s to modern times and the animal and insect kingdom, you will find that the actions of women towards "make-up and attire" are not that unusual. Case in point: The animal and insect kingdom. If you study mating rituals of male and female in this kingdom – which gender sports the most vivid colors? What gender of bird collects colorful trinkets (colored glass, plastics, etc) to attract a mate to its nest? Check it out. Humans are a different story… Rather than bore you to death with past history, let’s examine human nature, modern culture, high school (that takes me back a long way) and the adult world. It is human nature to stand out in a crowd to attract a mate. It is also human nature to wear the same attire as your social circles. It is also human nature to dress like people who you admire. The unfortunate part about this "wiring" process in a high school setting is that it is lost on the male and female population whose hormones are still maturing. The sexual allure of the clothes is lost in translation. Girl’s dress up like their favorite female recording idols, of the moment. Boy’s dress like the cool males they see in movies and or television programs, at the moment. In the adult world everything changes. If you want to attract a "like minded" individual – you dress accordingly. Example: If you are into Goth, you dress Goth, and attract others who are Goth. If you are Punk Rocker and want to attract other Punk Rockers – you dress like a Punk Rocker. If you are a rock solid intellectual and traditional, you dress that way. If you are an intellectual, free thinker, etc, you dress that way. Sometimes opposites attract. It is very complicated, yet, very simple to understand. Remember - fads die suddenly and quickly. Soon, maybe in your early 20’s you will settle into one style – and modify it slightly over the years. I will give you a perfect example. Tracy Sutterer, who is an author and connected to the same publishing company as I, loves my brain and I am infatuated with hers. We met on an authors message board, exchanged frequent postings on the board – very slowly. My picture on that message board was very small – and it appeared that I was bald (I have a full head of hair). After a few months we exchanged telephone numbers (I was living in Illinois, and she was living in South Dakota. She is 40 and I am 50. A ten-year difference isn't too bad. However, I lived most of my life in New York, she, in South Dakota. I am 6’2"; she is 5’1". We would laugh on the phone about our regional differences, regional humor, etc. One day we met in real life – and it was as if we had grown up together. There was an immediate mental and physical connection. We are beautiful in each other’s minds. Yes, I moved to South Dakota… As humans age, our looks fade very fast, almost overnight! The only thing that sustains a long-term relationship is what two individuals have in common, which was and still is the basis of the relationship. I was a good-looking man, slim and trim at 18 years of age. I was "distinguished" looking at 40 years of age (my hair just turning gray), at 50 years of age – well, a train wreck is a good visual. Tracy does not look 40. I have seen high school pictures of her – and she hasn't changed a bit. She will always be "sexy," and I continually drool over her mind. So, it is not the package – it is what is in the package that really counts – in the long run. I have a feeling your current views about women; their make-up and attire will change dramatically over the next 20 years. You will see pictures of yourself, and your friends in old scrap books - and laugh! Then memories will flood your mind. It is all about maturing and getting on in years. Oh, by the way. You know that "Plain Jane" in your school who is not in the cool group? Well, let me tell you something – she will blossom into a very sexy woman after high school. I'll tell you another thing, she has experienced all sorts of rejection by other boys – and has deep feelings and thoughts. Take a moment and say "hello" when you see her again. Just be yourself - and explore each other’s minds. You have much to learn from her. She has much to learn from you. If you connect on a deep level, that connection will grow, and both of you will carry this connection for the rest of your lives. You just have to get past the "hello" part, and be real! Who knows, maybe she admired you from afar. If you are rejected, keep trying for a while – and then back off. Let her observe you closer from afar for a while. You never know what will develop. Maybe something, maybe nothing… You just don't know until you try! ------------ Email Argile Stox: argilestox@gmail.com Tell a friend about this site! ------------ All articles are EXCLUSIVE to Useless-Knowledge.com and are not allowed to be posted on other websites. ARTICLE THIEVES WILL BE PROSECUTED! |
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