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 By Brian Michael Barbeito Feb. 28, 2006 Smith is his name. Joe Smith. Now since you are getting married, tradition would have it that Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith are who you are. Yet, nobody is actually going to take away your first name, the one you have gone by all your life. So, in life you are now known as Jane Smith. Simple and easy. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. Nevertheless, perhaps you are too progressive to be normal. Well that is not a nice way of putting it. There are a few ‘sort of kinda valid’ reasons that you might not become a Smith like good old Joe, or that you might become all hyphenated. His name is Joe Smith. You are Jane Jones-Smith. Professional reputation. If you have spent years and years in school and in a certain field, and your name is indeed very important that way, you might want to just keep it. Then you carry on with business as usual. Pride (the good kind). You are proud of your name. You love your husband and believe in the institution of marriage, and keeping your own name will not lessen either one of these things. How it all sounds. What if his last name is terrible, by your subjective feeling view alone even? Perhaps you cannot bear to carry this name for the rest of your years. It could also be a fine name, but sound odd, or have a funny meaning when combined with your first name. If his name is Appelle, and yours is Jane, perhaps there is not a problem with Jane Appelle. However, maybe if your name is Annie, you do not want to have people call you or to know yourself as Annie Appelle, because you think it sounds too much like Annie Apple. I suppose there are other reasons for a bride to keep her maiden name also. It’s not the end of the world. But if its just because you are scared of the finality of it, don’t be. You are getting married, and no matter how much you make the marriage your own, and deviate from traditional standards, somewhere inside you obviously believe in marriage. Marriage is marriage is marriage. So go with the flow. Take his name. He’ll feel great about it. And so can you. ------------ About the author: Brian Michael Barbeito lives in Aurora, Ontario, Canada. His two most recent books are Medium Double Double Milk (non-fiction) and Fluoride And The Electric Light Queen (poems), neither currently published. Email: Brian1750@Hotmail.com Comment on this article here! ------------ All articles are EXCLUSIVE to Useless-Knowledge.com and are not allowed to be posted on other websites. ARTICLE THIEVES WILL BE PROSECUTED! |
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