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 By Argile Stox Feb. 14, 2006 Well, today is Valentine‘s Day and every male in the world has placed orders for flowers, bought candy and cards to give to their loved one‘s. My Grandfather related an interesting account of a non-Valentine‘s day visit to a flower shop. My Grandfather was in a flower shop about fifty years ago and spied a guy buying three arrangements of roses to be sent to his wife. My Grandfather walked over to the guy and asked, “So, what did you do wrong?” The guy laughed and said, “I forgot her birthday. It was yesterday!” That story stuck with me, and I gave it a great deal of thought. For some strange reason, guys only buy flowers for their wives or girlfriends out of guilt to apologize for some error in judgement or to settle an argument. My father would always give my mother a small arrangement of flowers every week. When asked why he did that, he replied, “If I screw up and my wife gets angry with me, I point to the flowers. It is an insurance policy.” That statement stuck in my mind, as well. When I was dating (I am now in a very loving and satisfying relationship) and had a serious relationship, I followed my father’s advice. The woman really appreciated it – for a while. After about a year, she did not acknowledge the flowers which were placed on the dinner table every week. Not even a “thank you.” So, I stopped buying flowers. A few weeks later, she remarked, “How come you no longer give me flowers?” I remarked, “Well, you stopped acknowledging the flowers, so I stopped buying them.” She then said, “Well, I stopped noticing the flowers. Just today, I noticed that there were no flowers on the dinner table.” I then said, “Miss the flowers, huh?” She said, “Yes, very much!” I then said, “Well, if I resume giving you flowers every week, I feel that you will force yourself to say thank you. So, in my opinion – the thank you must come from your heart and that you really appreciate them.” She did not say a word. The relationship ended a few days later. After that experience, I pondered my father’s advice and gave flowers only once and a while. The women I dated would ask, “Why are you giving me flowers? We did not have an argument; did you do something wrong?” I counted with, “No, I did not do something wrong – I was thinking of you, and decided to buy you flowers to show how much I appreciate you.” The woman’s eyes would tear up, and she would give me a huge hug and kiss. In my current loving relationship, I am unable to give Tracy flowers – due to the fact that her cats would knock them off the table and or eat them. So, I buy her chocolate every once and a while. She really appreciates that! In addition, I try and buy her little trinkets of jewelry every once and a while – to show her how much I appreciate and love her. Tracy is always surprised when I give her chocolate and small trinkets of jewelry, and I get a huge hug and a sensual kiss. Guys, women have been conditioned to receive flowers, jewelry, and other stuff for Valentine’s Day or as an apology. In my opinion, it is time to break that cycle. If you pass a florist, buy her a small arrangement of flowers. If you pass a jewelry store, buy her an inexpensive gift – These two suggested gestures will show how much you love and appreciate your wife or girlfriend. Just explain that you were thinking of her; the flowers / jewelry caught your eye and you impulsively bought them. It will be the genuine emotional thought that will be conveyed to your wife or girlfriend that will touch her – not the flowers or trinket. The gestures will set you apart from other guys. If your girlfriend becomes your wife – continue the practice of buying her flowers and trinkets every once and a while. It will keep your relationship happy and strong. In addition, do not expect that your wife / girlfriend will reciprocate. If she does, give her a huge hug and sensuous kiss. Remember, a relationship must be renewed and reinforced every once and a while. Never take your wife / girlfriend for granted; for there maybe another guy out there who will follow the suggestions above and steal her away from you. Any Questions? ------------ Email Argile Stox: argilestox@gmail.com Comment on this article here! ------------ All articles are EXCLUSIVE to Useless-Knowledge.com and are not allowed to be posted on other websites. ARTICLE THIEVES WILL BE PROSECUTED! |
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