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Feb. 13, 2006 I recently learned of a website that is full of spiteful women that openly put their man troubles on this site. Everything from meeting a new man to how love went wrong. Now don't get me wrong, I think it's great for an outlet of people putting their hurts out on the world. But sometimes these women think of how worse they could be. And I totally understand where they are coming from. At my age, I have met many men in my life and they have all been special in their own unique way. I dreamed of what every other little girl dreams off, finding a man that loves you unconditionally, even if our behind is the same size as "Bridget Jones." I did not want a man that would change me into a version of their ex-girl friend. Nothing hurts worse than the man that you love has pictures of his ex- wife/girlfriend and if they have been married, why do they hang onto the wedding pictures when they could box up that part of their life and begin a new life with you. A woman really enjoys to hear how much she means to the man of her love almost every day. But to be compared to someone else in their past cuts like a knife to the bone. Then you start to do things, like color your hair. Spend hours picking out new outfits, trying a new hair cut, spending amazing amounts of money to look good for our man. You wonder what is so wrong with you and what's so right in Mary Jane's past with him. Insecurity and jealousy, in my humble opinion are a downfall to any relationship. You have to laugh before bed instead of fighting. I, personally, hate waking up mad. When you and your partner get into a tickle match, or just an attack of the sillies, you wake up a better person in the morning. I guess that one thing that alarmed me was that these women had a couple of dates with some guys and then they go onto this men bashing site and just let the whole world know how bad so and so was. But I have yet to read one good thing on there. I guess I got lucky with Dan. We fit along together and our sense of humor is the same. Plus he's a keeper because he stood beside me while our son was born. He stood beside me during my fight with cancer and now he is standing behind me on my writing and also my problems in the area of back problems and I am not supposed to be on my feet for longer than 20 minutes a day. What one thing is my pet peeve is when a guy uses any woman just for physical pleasure and all the while making her think she's the one. Then once the female falls for the guy, he turns out to be a jerk. I dislike men that lead women on like that. I guess that's another reason why I am still with Dan for almost 5 years now. I just don't get the idea of bashing one's ex. The relationship is over, let it go. Move on, get into your hobbies or find one that suits you and just let the person that is meant for you come to you. You can't buy love, you can't make love come to you that doesn't belong. Love is nature, nature changes for no one. Love happens when you least expect it and not looking for it. i was looking for someone to be my best friend and be there when I needed someone to cry to. I didn't realize that that friendship would develop into something more. ------------ About the author: Kaycee Nilson has completed her first novel, "Night Falls on Chicago." The first two chapters can be viewed at http://www.KayceeNilson.com. Besides writing columns for Useless-Knowledge, Kaycee is currently working on two more novels, "From the Mind of a Vampire", and "I'll Love You Til You Die." If you have enjoyed what you read, or would like to leave Kaycee a message, please visit her message board at http://www.KayceeNilson.com/Board Email: Kaycee@kayceenilson.com Comment on this article here! ------------ All articles are EXCLUSIVE to Useless-Knowledge.com. Please link to this article rather than copying and pasting it onto your site (which would be unauthorized and illegal). |
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